6 Ways To Strengthen Your Relationship with Your Child
There are days when I just can’t stomach the idea of sitting down on the floor and pretending I’m a lion. When I hear, ‘let’s pretend..’ I want to run for it - I’d rather clean the toilet.
I feel a wave of guilt - Am I a bad parent if I say no to playtime?
No. It’s okay not to play.
Even the most playful parent has these moments.
This is the time to remind ourselves of all the other wonderful ways we can connect and continue building the relationship with our child!
I’ve compiled a well-rounded list of 6 ways to strengthen your relationship - for days you’re feeling energetic or when you’re exhausted and just scraping by.
Read through and don’t try to do them all, please! Pick 1, the one that excites you the most and start there.
Special Time
There is nothing quite like quality 1:1 time with your child, engaged in free play. When you are going through a rough patch, like adjusting to daycare or a new sibling, the impact can be quite magical. I recommend this so often, I created a whole free resource on this, get My Special Time Guide.
Delight
Let the love in your heart show on your face. Yes, it’s really as simple as a loving look. With the right intention, it’s powerful. This is especially handy with you’re absolutely wiped and playtime just isn’t in your bandwidth. Bonus, my 5-year-old now does this to me and it’s absolutely heart-melting.
Date nights
A once-a-week date night can really fill a child up. There is something about getting out of the house with Mom or Dad for a special outing. Whether it’s a book and hot chocolate at the cafe or ice cream in the park - it just needs to be something your both enjoy.
Hellos & Goodbyes
A special ritual for goodbyes and even hellos can really pay off as you navigate new routines. It might look like a special hug, phrase or joke or secret handshake. Taking the lead to hold onto our kids in those vulnerable moments helps the whole day.
Food
Food is a wonderful connector and a great way to collect our children. Surprising them with a favourite food on a tough day is a great way to help them feel loved. Another useful habit is to anticipate their needs and provide snacks before they ask.
Hobbies
Share your passions or discover a new one together. Don’t wait until they are asleep to start that project - let them see you doing what you love! And if the interest is there, let them join in (even if it’s slower and messier).
Which idea will you try first?
Remember, this is not an exhaustive list - take a moment and add in your favourites! Every family has a unique way they show up and show love for each other.
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