You imagined sunny park days, sleepy cuddles, and a home full of laughter.
Instead?

🌀 It’s a meltdown over the wrong colour cup
😩 Mornings feel like a battle
😶‍🌫️ You’re wondering why nothing you try is working

You’ve read the books. Followed the experts. Tried to stay calm.

But what about when you’ve stayed calm a hundred times and it still isn’t working?

What about when your kid pushes every limit—and you’re running on fumes?

Here’s what no one tells you:

✅ You can be empathetic and hold boundaries
✅ You can be the safe place and say no
✅ You can raise your voice without losing your mind—or your connection

Parenting Support Rooted in Attachment, Boundaries & Connection

Hi, I’m Heather.
I’m a parenting coach, a mother of two, and a student of psychodynamic psychotherapy.
I help parents move beyond guilt and confusion—and into a connected, confident approach that actually works in real life.

Whether it’s sleep, behavior, or just feeling stuck—I’m here to help you make sense of it all.

Let’s raise resilient, connected kids—and feel good doing it.

What I Do

Parents often reach out when things feel stuck—when nothing seems to be working, and the usual advice falls flat.

Here’s what that might look like:

• Bedtime battles that never seem to end

• Aggressive behaviour that doesn’t respond to anything you try

• Daily power struggles, defiance, and meltdowns over the smallest things

• Big transitions—like daycare, school, or welcoming a new sibling—that leave everyone dysregulated

But what parents often find through our work together goes far beyond managing behaviour. They describe:

• A stronger, warmer connection with their child

• More cooperation and fewer outbursts

• Better sleep—for everyone

• A growing sense of confidence that isn’t tied to how the day went

We get there through my approach, grounded in attachment theory, developmental psychology, and a deep respect for the emotional lives of both children and parents.

Here’s how we work together:

🟣 Understanding
You’ll learn what’s developmentally appropriate for your child’s age and stage. Together, we’ll make sense of their behaviour—and yours—so you can respond with empathy, confidence, and fewer second guesses.

🟣 Clarity
Many of the struggles we face as parents come not just from our children, but from a culture that tells mothers to do it all, perfectly and without support. Drawing from my training in matrescence—the transformation into motherhood—we’ll explore not just how to support your child, but how to stay connected to yourself. We’ll strike a balance between the needs of your child, your own growth, and the well-being of your whole family.

🟣 Empowerment
We’ll co-create a plan with practical, relationship-building tools that work in the real world. I’ll offer compassionate accountability and consistent support as you find your footing and grow into the parent you want to be.

Curious if this approach is right for you?

About Me

I’m Heather Sande—a parenting coach, mother of two, and lifelong student of relationship and human development.

When I became a mother in 2016, I did what many of us do: chased the illusion of perfection. Sleep schedules, organic food, curated nurseries—if it looked right, maybe I was doing it right. But by the time my second child arrived in 2018, that illusion shattered. I was overwhelmed, exhausted, and constantly asking: Why is this so hard?

That question led me on a path of deep study and transformation. I began with attachment theory at the Neufeld Institute, where I completed over a dozen courses and became fluent in the language of developmental psychology. I then trained for nine months as a Baby-Led Sleep and Well-Being Specialist, learning how to combine sleep science with attachment-based care.

In 2022, I completed a Matrescence Apprenticeship with Jessie Harrold to explore a question that had begun to burn even brighter: How do we support the growth of the mother alongside the child?

My work today blends evidence-based knowledge with lived experience. I offer parents a grounded, relational approach to navigating early childhood, identity shifts, and family life. I believe deeply that we are not meant to parent alone—or perfectly.

In 2024, I was accepted into the Ontario Psychotherapy and Counselling College (OPCC) and am currently training in psychodynamic psychotherapy. This work is further expanding my understanding of how our past shapes our present—and how healing and growth ripple through families across generations.

If you're seeking a parenting coach who brings both professional insight and personal truth, you're in the right place. I’m here to support you as you reimagine motherhood and redefine what it means to raise children with presence, attunement, and compassion.

Let’s do this together.